From the Desk of Connie Dobbs: 

Emotional Blips on the Radar

April 20, 2014
are just that: emotional blips.

We tend to be more affected by some blips more than others;  the blips on our emotional radar are all the same, ultimately--even though we may focus more on some of them than others.

Oh, maybe this blip looks kinda red, or that one kinda blue....we'll focus on that blip, blinking on our emotional screen, till we forget about all the other blips on the radar.

Holding on to emotional states happens.  It's an unfortunate part of the parcel that comes with being human.  

Awareness; that we're holding on to a feeling, and prolonging an uncomfortable state, can help us let go of it and move on. (If you don't know you're holding, how can you let go?)

Sometimes the emotion is in response to a specific situation, and seems perfectly valid.  (Those can be hard to let go of--"justified" emotions.)

Other times (& quite frustratingly) there's nothing particular to put one's finger on; just a general sense of emo-ickyness, and looking for the reason for the sensations may sometimes take one further down the rabbit-hole of psychological discomfort. 

Either way, the result is the same; and so is the solution: conscious awareness--do something to distract (BREATHE!), and move on to the next emotional state--hopefully, relaxed and focused. 

The emotions that feel icky are likely causing unnecessary stress, and are not useful or conducive to pro-actively approaching life.   By examing heart rate, blood pressure, and breathing rate, it becomes rather clear that icky emostates (anger, depression, frustration, self-pity, hatred), when experienced regularly, are detrimental to the human body.

Varying levels of damage can by identified, to various structures of the body;  the system is more likely to malfunction.  If you need scientific data to prove it, Google "effects of chronic stress" and see what comes up. 

Let's not forget that perception is also skewed when experiencing icky emostates, as the limbic system is usually in control and doing the thinking, vs. the reasoning centers, located in the frontal lobes.   It will be difficult to determine that the source of your discomfort is yourself.  [oh, you'll get there, eventually. Hopefully. Choice!]

Another analogy for holding on to an emotional state:  it's like focusing on one burned out pixel on a 1080p high-def screen, and not being able to see the larger image or enjoy the show because all that we can see is that burned out pixel. There's more than enough working pixels on the screen to see the image clearly.

Go ahead. Enjoy the show. 

One more thing:  don't hold on to other people's emotions, either.  That will do you even more damage in the long run. You'll figure it out.   Give yourself some slack.  

Slack yourself as hard as you need. 









 

The Great Forgetting

November 23, 2013
It happens to all of us, even the best and brightest and worst and darkest SubG experiences it--the great forgetting. 

Fogettings, indeed, it's not just once in a lifetime, friends--if we're lucky, we forget ALL THE TIME.

Literally:  We forget ALL, We forget TIME, WE FORGET "ALL TIME".

It's that big picture, see, that big picture, the ALL that we forget, and we need to, otherwise we couldn't focus on the details.

But to really focus on those details, sometimes, we have to forget the rest of the p...
Continue reading...
 

On the Subject of "Death": Connie Supports The End of Life Transition (THEoLT)

July 17, 2013
THEoLT:  The End of Life Transition.

Rather than funerals, we have celebrations of life; in Dobbstown, we assist our Elders out, at their will.

Imagine this:

You are ready to move on, because it's just that time.  Rather than slowly and painfully make your way out of the world in hospice care, you schedule your THEoLT.

Your loved ones join you on that momentous day, and praise your life, and accomplishments (or lack thereof), and may bid you farewell on your journey to...pleasure saucers with sex...
Continue reading...
 

"There Can Be No "BOB" Without CONNIE"

June 9, 2013
"Connie could exist without "Bob," but there can be no "Bob" without Connie." -- Revelation X, pg 40, p3, v1 
".....
for she is the only one who can keep him in line." --pg 40, p4, v1

"She is The Maiden...The Mother...and The Crone....It may be that she possesses this charismatic chameleon power simply because that's what "Bob" requires..." -- pg 40, find it!

"
Connie orbits in such a tight circle on the inner rim of "Bob's" luck event horizon, at such a high velocity relative to all other beings...

Continue reading...
 

Message to Prospective Mothers, from the lips of Connie:

May 29, 2013
So, you want to be a vehicle for new life on the planet.  

Yes, a vehicle--as a pregnant person, you are a walking incubator.

How the incubator levels are set will affect the development of the human growing inside you, and may determine what kind of person you bring into the world. 

YOU MUST UNDERSTAND that your emotions, thoughts, feelings, reactions--affect your nuero-chemical/hormonal makeup, on a physiological level---and therefore that chemistry is flooding the system of whoever is develop...
Continue reading...
 

From the Desk of Connie Dobbs:

June 11, 2012
Memo to all Parental units--
Parenting is Modeling : Be a Supermodel!

  • Teach your children how to play by playing with them.  How do you expect them to know if you don't model healthy, respectful, inquisitive, imaginative play?

  • New environments mean different ways of playing; remember, your child's ability to play well in familiar environments may not rollover to new, unfamiliar environments.  That's why it's good to play with your child on a regular basis, consistently modeling healthy play and ...

Continue reading...
 

GIVE Slack to GET Slack

August 5, 2011
Did some of you NOT get the MEMO?

You must GIVE slack to GET slack.

Give yourself some slack. 
Give your family some slack.  
Give your job slack.  
Give WHATEVER the FROP happens slack.

What does that MEAN?

WHAT DO YOU MEAN, "WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?"

It means: QUIT JUDGING WHAT SHIT HAPPENS B/C YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT THE FROP IT MEANS.

The whole concept of "wrong"..... is WRONG.

Every time we think "i'm doing it wrong" or "he's doing it wrong" or "they're doing it wrong", we PULL THE REIGNS SO TIGHT OUR HAN...
Continue reading...
 

About Me


There are many of us, really. J.R. "Bob" Dobbs and Connie Dobbs both live within us, in a tenuous balance. Some are more "Bob"; some are more Connie. There are female "Bob(s)", and male Connie(s). Can you perceive the possibility of/have faith in many different (usually contradicting) ideas/systems, yet not take them siriusly whatsoever? You may be more of a Con. Do you believe in nothing, question everything, but take EVERYthing VERY siriusly? Then you may be more of a "Bob." The key is to balance the two within ourselves.

Categories

 Copyright 2011