From the Desk of Connie Dobbs: 

Being Mindful of Full Minds

February 7, 2017
A full mind may be less capable of making inferences or filling in gaps.

A mind that is full is too distracted from what is happening in "real time" outside of its ever jabbering thought processes to make connections that may be obvious to another mind, that is emptier. 

When we communicate with others, be mindful of how full their minds may be.

If the individual appears to have a very full mind, then we may want to be VERY SPECIFIC in what we are attempting to express.  Otherwise, we may experience communication breakdowns, resulting in unnecessary frustration, for both parties.

The less full the mind, the less specificity is necessary.

The more present the mind is...well...sometimes a look is enough--when a mind is empty, it can receive the gifts of the NOW.  

Presence is the gift, the presents come through presence--awareness.  A mind that is empty is ready to receive. 

No judgement--a person with a full mind isn't "bad"; and empty mind isn't "good".  They are different. 

Full minds require more detail from the communicator; those details help crowd out the noise enough that they may see what we're expressing with greater clarity. 

Individuals with full minds help us practice detailed communication.  Yay!

Individuals with empty minds help us practice being present. Yay! 

So much slack everywhere.  SO MUCH SLACK!!!!
 

On Contractions and Expansions

July 30, 2016
The tighter the contraction that precedes, 
the more expansive the expansion that follows.

that is all.
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Whirlpools

April 21, 2016
Swimming through life, swimmingly.

Whirlpools.

Don't get sucked in; we can't avoid being in the water--the water is Life.

We may, in stillness, be able to detect the direction the whirlpool is swirling from, and swim away from it; and in more stillness, wait for it to subside.

Breathe.

The whirlpool is temporary--though the more people it sucks in, the longer it may linger.

In stillness. Breathing.

The whirlpool subsides.

We swim along.

And maybe, when we do feel ourselves getting sucked in--don't fig...
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The Breath of Life

March 29, 2016
Expansion
Contraction

Expansion
Contraction

We have times in our live we feel very expansive--HUGE!

The spiral loops are wide--there is plenty of space for other people, thoughts, ideas...

We may even remain in expansive mode for days, or weeks, or months--some can pull it off for years.  But as with every inhale, there comes the exhale--contraction is necessary for life to breathe.

It seems, sometimes, when we get to the most contracted, we hold our own breaths; there is barely enough space for our...
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Learn to Recognize Our Shit

January 18, 2016
It's an undeniable aspect of life--we WILL get our heads stuck up our own asses, throughout the whole of it. 

You can see why it's not a comfortable place to be; not only is the position awkward, it's dark and smelly in there. 

Quite often, we won't be aware that our heads are up our asses, especially if we happen to be rather pleased with ourselves.  Narcissism may make it harder to smell our own shit, since we think our shit is so awesome. 

(When we think our shit is awesome, we may also talk ...
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A Different Origin Myth: Our Heart is the Earth

August 11, 2015
While I cannot say for certain that the story that follows holds any truth, I can neither say that it holds any falsehood.  It is, like other origin myths, a story which may, or may not, be.

What I place before you, from my humble keyboard to your screen, is another potential possibility--and like so many that bounce around our multi-cultural sphere...what matters most is: How does it affect HOW you perceive that which you perceive to be outside of yourself? and How does it affect your INTERAC...
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The Twanging of Our Heartstrings

August 10, 2015
When we interact with individuals, regardless of how brief the contact, the depth of the relationship, the length of duration, the intensity of exchange--a slack line is formed, forever linking you to them.

Some strings are very fine, not even a hair's width; others are thick cords, a strong slack line that provides stabilizing support to both individuals....

Every person matters.  Every individual has had an effect; is having an effect; will have an effect: on our respective lives, in some way...
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"To Miss":Lack as "To Appreciate":Slack

August 2, 2015
"Interacting/Processing. Tao/Te. INTERACTING/PROCESSING!" -- Robert Anton Wilson

Programming programming PROGRAMMING!

Language is key to programming.   A computer cannot be programmed without some sort of language;  our nervous/neurological systems respond to programming as well--the external stimuli that reinforce our socio-cultural programs, emotional responses/reactions...programming. 

Some aspects are out of our control;  sometimes, we can choose our exposure to environments or individuals, ...
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The Meta-Museum

May 5, 2015
Somewhere upon the Luck Plane we may stumble upon the Meta-Museum, a glorious place where each individual living being's life is on display as the ever-changing, ever-growing work of art that each magnificent piece is constantly becoming. 

We are ever expanding and contracting; we are whirling, twirling dervishes riding the Sacred Chao...

Walking down the halls of the Meta-Museum...well, really...there are no words that can describe the masterpieces unfolding before our eyes...

...the closest I ...
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Emotional Blips on the Radar

April 20, 2014
are just that: emotional blips.

We tend to be more affected by some blips more than others;  the blips on our emotional radar are all the same, ultimately--even though we may focus more on some of them than others.

Oh, maybe this blip looks kinda red, or that one kinda blue....we'll focus on that blip, blinking on our emotional screen, till we forget about all the other blips on the radar.

Holding on to emotional states happens.  It's an unfortunate part of the parcel that comes with being human...
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About Me


There are many of us, really. J.R. "Bob" Dobbs and Connie Dobbs both live within us, in a tenuous balance. Some are more "Bob"; some are more Connie. There are female "Bob(s)", and male Connie(s). Can you perceive the possibility of/have faith in many different (usually contradicting) ideas/systems, yet not take them siriusly whatsoever? You may be more of a Con. Do you believe in nothing, question everything, but take EVERYthing VERY siriusly? Then you may be more of a "Bob." The key is to balance the two within ourselves.

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