There are many of us, really. J.R. "Bob" Dobbs and Connie Dobbs both live within us, in a tenuous balance. Some are more "Bob"; some are more Connie. There are female "Bob(s)", and male Connie(s). Can you perceive the possibility of/have faith in many different (usually contradicting) ideas/systems, yet not take them siriusly whatsoever? You may be more of a Con. Do you believe in nothing, question everything, but take EVERYthing VERY siriusly? Then you may be more of a "Bob." The key is to balance the two within ourselves.